HOW TO HAVE HARMONY IN YOUR MARRIAGE:
The problems that cause a marriage to fall apart, are many, however we will look at only
three. The first problem are" Family and friends", the second problem is "listening to
hears says" The third" Disgusted with delegated authority". If a man and a woman got
married and is left on a island by themselves. There will be little or no problem at
all,
the problems starts with the interferences of family and friends.
Before our children were born, my wife and I love, laugh, fight, and argued all day, but
was always together. Even the fighting was a joke to us. As soon as family came along,
they make every thing became more serious that it is. The couple had to draw the line
where family and friend came in, or else they will broke up you marriage like a clay
pot.
LISTENING TO HEARS SAYS:
Sirach 42:13 For just as moths come from garments, so harm to woman comes from women.
Sirach 42:14 Better a man's harshness than a woman's indulgence.
"The New American Bible. Saint Joseph Edition" Page 812.
You will never succeeds if you keep listening to evil people who will advice you contrary
to the written word of God. People who chat big on web sites, and when they are among
friends, then cry out for loneliness in the night.
Many of my co-worker were talking in the lunch room, these people were nurses, educated
people. They were talking about how bad men are.
I asked them a question" If you were told by your friends that they see husband with
another woman, would you ask you husband when you went home?" The women say" Hell no"
Hell no" I say" My God these will never have a good marriage. They are going to go home,
and act strange base on what they hear, the man will see the changes and think that she
had another man on the side. Now mis trust is planted accidently. From here onward, all
kind of stupidness will fallow, included an affair. "If she is doing it! Hell! Why cant
I? at the same time none of them is doing it, it is just what the friend told her. My
wife was vexed for one week, finally, when she decide to speak. Se say one woman told her
that she had a friend who had a boy friend work at the same place where I work that have
the same name as I do. I say! yes! You both take that and cook it in a pot, I do not want
women on my job because they chat too much and will boast that they score. Women find it
hurtful to see when a other woman get luckey, and will ill-advice the luckey one if she
is foolish.
If you decide to listen to hears say, you must always ask the husband
if he is guilty of the charge. I have seen where women tricked other women, and bust the
marriage wide open.
Always talk every thing over with your husband, and hear his side of the story. Believe
nothing until you ask. Give the man the benefit of the doubt. Give him rope to hang
himself, the truth will unravel it self. Never end a relationship base on something
friend say. Beware and shun the company of women who find delegated authority
distasteful.
You cannot expect a man to act responsible, if you take away his authority from him. You
have him in the house to urinate white water and keep his mouth shut, and that is what he
does. For peace sake he keep putting out the sweet water and keep his mouth shut. But
strong men is not going to give any water where he is not respected.
THE SCORN FOR DELEGATED AUTHORITY:
A person authorized to act as representative for another; a deputy or an agent. 2. A
representative to a conference or convention. 3. A member of a House of Delegates, the
lower house of the Maryland, Virginia, or West Virginia legislature. 4. An elected or
appointed representative of a U.S. territory in the House of Representatives who is
entitled to speak but not vote. --del?e?gate tr.v. del?e?gat?ed, del?e?gat?ing,
del?e?gates (-głt”). 1. To authorize and send (another person) as one's representative.
2. To commit or entrust to another: delegate a task to a subordinate.
There comes a time when the welfare of people is HONG in the balance, and a quick
decision is needed. There is no time for long drawn out discussions, and power struggle.
If there is no one in authority that have emergency power, to make a quick decisions, by
the time we sought out our differences and know what to do, it will be too late.
We cannot have progress without order, and we cannot have order if
there is no one in authority to enforce that order. Even among a pact of mad wolves one
has to be the leader of the pact. Among a band of robbers and rapist one have to be the
leader, are else they will get caught easily and put into prison. If there is no
authority in the schools all hell will let loose. God set up every things in order as it
pleases him. We must remember that democracy is good for nations
but not for the people of God. We are rule by theocracy, while living in a democratic
land. You and I cannot serve God our old way. God want us to obey the powers that are set
up because he set them up.
DELEGATED AUTHORITY IN THE HOME:
It is important for a woman to know the background of the man she intended to marry if
she had problem with the delegated authority of a man. Black American men at one time in
our history were having hard time finding a job because of their race. However, the women
could find jobs. So the women work, while the man stayed home and take care of the
children. As the years go by, the women who became the bread winners, became the
dominant ones in the relationship.
But it was not so in Jamaica, the Jamaican men was all ways the bread winners and remain
the dominant ones in the relationship. When you put the black Americans women with
Jamaican men they run into a power struggle. Because she by nature is dominant and the
Jamaican man is also dominant and will not give in. Power struggle can tied up a marriage
for years, and cause the couple to live and died in a rent house, because they cannot come
to any agreement.
Amos 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
SUBMISSION COMES IN WHERE
THERE IS A DISAGREEMENT:
Since God ordained the man as the burden bearer of the home, the woman must be the first
submit. All this problem came about because of frighten and hard up men. Smart men do not
get involved with a female that they will have to tell to submit. Submitting is what women
do when they are in love with a man.
Ephesians 5:23-AV For the husband is the head of the wife, even
as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the
body. Ephesians 5:24-AV Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,
so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing.
1Peter 3:1-AV Likewise, ye wives, [be] in subjection to your own
husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without
the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1Peter 3:2-AV While they behold your chaste conversation
[coupled] with fear. 1Peter 3:3-AV Whose adorning let it not be that outward [adorning]
of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of
putting on of apparel; 1Peter 3:4-AV But [let it be] the hidden man of the heart, in that
which is not corruptible, [even the ornament] of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the
sight of God of great price.
1Peter 3:5-AV For after this manner in the old time the holy
women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in
subjection unto their own husbands:
1Peter 3:6-AV Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:
whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid
with any amazement. 1Peter 3:7-AV Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with [them] according to
knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs
together of the grace of life; that
your prayers be not hindered.
Romans 7:1-AV Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that
know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long
as he liveth?
Romans 7:2-AV For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the
law to [her] husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be
dead, she is loosed from the law of [her] husband.
HOW TO DEAL WITH AN ARGUMENT:
Proverbs 15:1 (KJV) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Do not say too much, only said what is to be said. You first must not condescends to name
calling. Leave place for reconciliation. Some people say so much that when the
misunderstand is clear up, the relationship cannot return to its originality, because of
what was said during the quarrel.
BEFORE GETTING MARRIED
THE MAN MUST FIND OUT IF THE WOMAN
BELIEVE IN HIS DELEGATED AUTHORITY:
You have to establish this even before the engagement, or else there will arise a power
struggle, which will tore that marriage apart like a tornado. If it came to the place
where the man is not the head any more it is time to move out. That is why the woman must
choose her man
carefully. Choose who she is willing to submit to. So submitting will be easy and not
painful.
That is why you cannot choose an unbeliever to be your husband. You also have to be aware
of the unbelievers that are in the churches. Men of Sodom who came in privately to spy out
our liberty. You must be able to hear from the Holy Spirit, which will guide you into all
truth.
Galatians 2:4 (KJV) And that because of false brethren unawares brought in, who came in
privily to spy out our liberty which we have in Christ Jesus, that they might bring us
into bondage:
GOD SET UP ALL THE AUTHORITY THERE IS:
In the affair of men, God set up men in authority. If we refuses to obey man whom we can
see, feel and touch, it is a definite sign that we will not obey God whom we cannot see.
1 John 4:20 (KJV) If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he
that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?
1 Thes. 4:8 (KJV) He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also
given unto us his holy Spirit.
1 Thes. 4:8 He therefore that despiseth not man, but God] The principle stated here is
expressed in various ways in Scripture. God considers certain sins as direct sins
against Him: murder (Genesis 9:6), despising the least child or believer (Matthew 18:10;
Luke 10:16; 1
Dispising Delegated authority.
Thes. 4:8), any mistreatment of a human being (Matthew 25:31-46), or rejection of Jesus
and the gospel (John 12:48). If this could be emphasized more there would be less
malice, envy, jealousy, and strife among Christians and even among sinners.
1Corinthians 14:40-AV Let all things be done decently and in
order.
Judges 21:25-AV In those days [there was] no king in Israel:
every man did [that which was] right in his own eyes.
FAMINE IS THE RESULT:
Ruth 1:1-AV Now it came to pass in the days when the judges
ruled, that there was a famine in the land.---.
GOD SET UP THE POWERS:
Romans 13:1-AV Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers.
For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained
of God.
Romans 13:2-AV Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth
the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to
themselves damnation.
Romans 13:3-AV For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to
the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that
which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:
Romans 13:4-AV For he is the minister of God to thee for good.
But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not
the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to
[execute] wrath upon him that doeth evil.
Romans 13:5-AV Wherefore [ye] must needs be subject, not only for
wrath, but also for conscience sake.
Romans 13:6-AV For for this cause pay ye tribute also: for they
are God's ministers, attending continually upon this very thing.
GOD RULETH IN THE KINGDOM OF MEN
AND IS THE ONE WHO SET UP RULERS AND
TAKE THEM DOWN
IN HIS OWN TIME:
Daniel 4:17-AV This matter [is] by the decree of the watchers,
and the demand by the word of the holy ones: to the intent that
the living may know that the most High ruleth in the kingdom of
men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will, and setteth up over it
the basest of men.
Daniel 5:21-AV And he was driven from the sons of men; and his
heart was made like the beasts, and his dwelling [was] with the
wild asses: they fed him with grass like oxen, and his body was
wet with the dew of heaven; till he knew that the most high God
ruled in the kingdom of men, and [that] he appointeth over it
whomsoever he will.
WE ARE COMMANDED TO PRAY FOR
THOSE IN AUTHORITY:
1Timothy 2:1-AV I exhort therefore, that, first of all,
supplications, prayers, intercessions, [and] giving of thanks, be
made for all men;
1Timothy 2:2-AV For kings, and [for] all that are in authority;
that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and
honesty.
1Timothy 2:3-AV For this [is] good and acceptable in the sight of
God our Saviour;
1Timothy 2:4-AV Who will have all men to be saved, and to come
unto the knowledge of the truth.
EVEN BAD LEADERS ARE ORDAINED BY GOD
FOR REBELLIOUS PEOPLE:
Exodus 9:15-AV For now I will stretch out my hand, that I may
smite thee and thy people with pestilence; and thou shalt be cut
off from the earth.
Exodus 9:16-AV And in very deed for this [cause] have I raised
thee up, for to shew [in] thee my power; and that my name may be
declared throughout all the earth.
DELEGATED AUTHORITY IN THE CHURCH:
1Corinthians 12:27-AV Now ye are the body of Christ, and members
in particular.
1Corinthians 12:28-AV And God hath set some in the church, first
apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that
miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities
of tongues.
1Corinthians 12:29-AV [Are] all apostles? [are] all prophets?
[are] all teachers? [are] all workers of miracles?
1Corinthians 12:30-AV Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak
with tongues? do all interpret?
1Corinthians 12:31-AV But covet earnestly the best gifts: and yet
shew I unto you a more excellent way.
1Timothy 5:17-AV Let the elders that rule well be counted worthy
of double honour, especially they who labour in the word and
doctrine.
1Timothy 5:18-AV For the scripture saith, Thou shalt not muzzle
the ox that treadeth out the corn. And, The labourer [is] worthy
of his reward.
1Timothy 5:19-AV Against an elder receive not an accusation, but
before two or three witnesses.
DELEGATED AUTHORITY IN THE WORK PLACE:
1Peter 2:18-AV Servants, [be] subject to [your] masters with all
fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward.
1Peter 2:19-AV For this [is] thankworthy, if a man for conscience
toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully.
Titus 2:9-AV [Exhort] servants to be obedient unto their own
masters, [and] to please [them] well in all [things]; not
answering again;
Titus 2:10-AV Not purloining, but shewing all good fidelity; that
they may adorn the doctrine of God our Saviour in all things.
1Timothy 6:1-AV Let as many servants as are under the yoke count
their own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and
[his] doctrine be not blasphemed.
1Timothy 6:2-AV And they that have believing masters, let them
not despise [them], because they are brethren; but rather do
[them] service, because they are faithful and beloved, partakers
of the benefit. These things teach and exhort.
1Timothy 6:3-AV If any man teach otherwise, and consent not to
wholesome words, [even] the words of our Lord Jesus Christ, and
to the doctrine which is according to godliness;
1Timothy 6:4-AV He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about
questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife,
railings, evil surmisings,
Colossians 4:1-AV Masters, give unto [your] servants that which
is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.
Colossians 3:22-AV Servants, obey in all things [your] masters
according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but
in singleness of heart, fearing God:
Ephesians 6:5-AV Servants, be obedient to them that are [your]
masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in
singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;
Ephesians 6:6-AV Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the
servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;
CHILDREN TO PARENTS:
1Timothy 3:12-AV Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife,
ruling their children and their own houses well.
1Timothy 3:4-AV One that ruleth well his own house, having his
children in subjection with all gravity;
Colossians 3:20-AV Children, obey [your] parents in all things:
for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
Ephesians 6:1-AV Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for
this is right.
Ephesians 6:2-AV Honour thy father and mother; (which is the
first commandment with promise;)
Ephesians 6:3-AV That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest
live long on the earth.
NOT UNTIL EIGHTEEN YEARS OF AGE
BUT UNTIL MARRIAGE:
Matthew 19:5-AV And said, For this cause shall a man leave father
and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be
one flesh?
Mark 10:7-AV For this cause shall a man leave his father and
mother, and cleave to his wife;
Children suppose to be in subjection to their father authority
until the children are married, then a new line of authority is now
being establish.
WHEN IS IT JUSTIFIABLE TO REBEL
AGAINST AUTHORITY?
Any time they go directly against the word of God. Like an employer
forcing a Sabbath keeper to work on a Saturday. Or forcing a Sunday
keeper to work on Sunday.
Daniel 3:14-AV Nebuchadnezzar spake and said unto them, [Is it]
true, O Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, do not ye serve my gods,
nor worship the golden image which I have set up?
Daniel 3:15-AV Now if ye be ready that at what time ye hear the
sound of the cornet, flute, harp, sackbut, psaltery, and
dulcimer, and all kinds of musick, ye fall down and worship the
image which I have made; [well]: but if ye worship not, ye shall
be cast the same hour into the midst of a burning fiery furnace;
and who [is] that God that shall deliver you out of my hands?
Daniel 3:16-AV Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego, answered and said
to the king, O Nebuchadnezzar, we [are] not careful to answer
thee in this matter.
Daniel 3:17-AV If it be [so], our God whom we serve is able to
deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and he will deliver
[us] out of thine hand, O king.
Daniel 3:18-AV But if not, be it known unto thee, O king, that we
will not serve thy gods, nor worship the golden image which thou
hast set up.
Matthew 4:9-AV And saith unto him, All these things will I give
thee, if thou wilt fall down and worship me.
Matthew 4:10-AV Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan:
for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him
only shalt thou serve.
Proverbs 24:4-AV And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled
with all precious and pleasant riches.
Proverbs 11:9-AV An hypocrite with [his] mouth destroyeth his
neighbour: but through knowledge shall the just be delivered.
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